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“He won’t open up.”

I hear this phrase often. Sometimes said with concern, sometimes with frustration or resignation. It’s usually framed as a problem to be solved—an emotional deficit, a resistance, a failure to engage. The assumption underneath it is clear: if he were evolved or emotionally mature enough, he would talk more about how he feels. But what if that assumption is incomplete? What if many men are expressing their emotional life—in ways we’ve not been taught to recognize?