Ask Shawndel a Question

Over the past year, many people have reached out privately to ask questions about masculinity, relationships, social dynamics, and the kinds of patterns I write about here in Big Grip Chronicles.

Some questions come from men trying to understand themselves.
Others come from women trying to understand the men in their lives.
And some come from people simply trying to make sense of the strange cultural moment we’re living through.

Rather than trying to answer these questions piecemeal through messages and emails, I’m creating a small, structured way to receive them.

You can now submit a question through a short form.

Question Submission: $25

Your question will enter my review queue. From there, a few different things may happen:

• Some questions will receive a direct response from me, either written or as a short voice recording.
• Some questions may be answered anonymously in Big Grip Chronicles for paid subscribers, especially when the theme is broadly useful.
• Some questions may not receive a response immediately due to volume or because the topic may be better suited for a longer conversation.

If your question is not selected for response, the $25 submission fee can be applied as credit toward a future mentoring session. You can learn more about Big Grip Mentoring here.

This structure allows me to thoughtfully review questions while still protecting the time needed for my research, writing, and fieldwork.

If you choose to submit a question, I encourage you to be clear and concise. One or two well-formed sentences is usually enough. Often the most interesting questions are not the longest ones, but the most honest.

Many of the questions people submit touch on recurring themes in modern life, including:

• men trying to understand their own relationships and emotional lives

• women trying to understand the men beside them

• how emotional and physical distance develops inside long-term relationships

• the impact of harsh or seemingly emotionally unavailable fathers

• confusion about what masculine responsibility and emotional expression looks like

• how attraction changes over time within marriage

• how men and women misread each other’s signals

• how men can create deeper relationships with their children, at any age

• and much more…

These questions often reflect deeper cultural truths about how men and women are raised, how intimacy is negotiated, and how people try to make sense of their relationships today.

You can submit your question here.

Thank you for the thoughtfulness many of you bring to these conversations. The questions people are asking right now reveal a great deal about the moment we’re living in—and I’m glad to explore them together.

— Shawndel